Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Men, money and problems

What is the deal with rich and powerful men and their self-destructive fixation with getting caught up in sex scandals?

Do they really not realize that just because they are rich and powerful anything they do in the dark is going to come into the light? Maybe not immediately, but soon enough. Case and point: Kobe Bryant, Kwame Kilpatrick, Bill Clinton, Bill Cosby and now Tiger Woods (I know it’s still speculation at this juncture, but you get the point). And way beyond that the list goes on and on.

Everyone knows that women are, and always will be, attracted to powerful men. This is not rocket science. But being that this has always been the case, and it is almost 2010, you would think that a light would go on in someone’s head that maybe, just maybe, it would be better to stick to playing in your own sandbox.

Gentlemen, let me share some wisdom with you: Women (i.e. your wife, girlfriend, significant other, or someone you have lead to believe that she is your significant other) are not stupid. And to go even one step further, women are very territorial and vindictive. So for you to think that you can continue to play in the street like dogs in heat and not get caught is pure stupidity on your part and here’s why:

1- No matter the intent of the initial hook up, when you start messing around with someone, you run the risk of them catching feelings for you and when feelings come into play women become emotional. In case you didn’t know, women are emotional creatures by nature.

2- When women become emotional they then become territorial, so it no longer matters to your “jump off” that you are married or otherwise spoken for. She will then begin to vie for more attention and time thus leading to your first set of problems.

3- And here’s the biggest one: Men by nature are creatures of habit, and when y’all start messing around you tend to change your habits; and as sure as the sky is blue, women will pick up on that immediately. Don’t get it twisted…you will slip up eventually.

So then the question then becomes: Why cheat? Be a man about yours and either tell your woman that you aren’t happy and don’t want to be with her any more or come to grips with the fact that you can’t have your cake and eat it too. That type of selfishness in relationship is what leads to a lot of domestic “misunderstandings” if you catch my drift.

If you have a good woman at home, work harder at making that relationship work before you seek satisfaction elsewhere. And if you don't have a good woman at home, and if and when you do decide to seek satisfaction elsewhere, be a big boy and have a conversation with your mate and let her know how you feel.

Sure she will be hurt and may even fly off the handle, but in the long run she will respect you for your honesty. Or you can continue to be dishonest and play games and run the risk of getting your wig split. The choice is ultimately up to you, but be sure to diligently consider the repercussions of your actions for the latter.

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